In this episode of our Kallisto Club podcast, Rohan's Vision Between Flexibility and Tradition, we had the pleasure of welcoming Rohan, a former journalist who became a full-time dad. His captivating story immerses us in the challenges, joys, and learnings involved in such a life choice. Through his experiences, he invites us to rethink parenting and break out of traditional patterns.
From journalist to full-time dad: an unexpected turn
Rohan, after a demanding career in journalism in India, decided to quit his job just before his daughter's birth. For him, the decision was a natural one. "We agreed that I would be the primary caregiver, and Clemence, my wife, would return to work after her three-month maternity leave," he explains.
Despite the curious looks, he received generally positive support. "People find it courageous, but it's also a privilege. Many don't have this opportunity," he adds humbly.
Active and thoughtful parenting
During Clemence's pregnancy, Rohan was fully involved. Together, they took haptonomy classes, consulted with a doula, and read extensively to prepare. "These shared moments allowed us to truly relax and reflect on what it means to become a parent."
The birth was also a significant moment. Prepared with a clear birth plan, they went through labor together in a respectful and informed atmosphere.
The first months: short nights, but filled with tenderness
Back home the day after giving birth, Rohan made a point of actively caring for his daughter. "I chose to manage the nights to learn how to soothe her and put her to bed. I wanted to create a direct connection with her."
Although challenging, these first few months reinforced his desire to deconstruct traditional roles. “Being there from the beginning allowed me to better understand his needs and gain confidence in my role as a father.”
Advice for expectant fathers
Rohan shares several recommendations for parents, and especially for dads:
- Communicate with your partner : Talking about expectations, roles, and decisions upfront can prevent many conflicts.
- Be flexible : Babies are constantly changing. What works one week may not work the next.
- Don't be dogmatic : There is no one-size-fits-all method. Each family must find its own balance.
- Get involved from the start : Whether it's sleepovers, changing, or playtime, every interaction is valuable.
📚 Reading recommendations:
- “ The philosophical baby ” by Alison Gopnik
- “ My child won't eat!: How to Enjoy Mealtimes without Worry ” by Carlos Gonzales
A new vision of parenting
For Rohan, becoming a father has transformed his way of seeing the world. He even compares parenthood to a video game: “The rewards come gradually – a smile, a laugh, a first word. Each milestone is a tremendous joy.”
His approach reminds us that parenthood is a unique adventure, to be experienced according to one's own values and desires.
And you, how do you experience or see your role as a parent? Share your experience in the comments, and if this article inspired you, don't hesitate to pass it on to other future dads. 🌟